For Colored Girls...

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I've been a card-carrying member of the "I Love to Read" club since elementary school. Unfortunately, I'm pretty sure that my membership has been revoked. Lately, I've been the queen of "buy a new book, start that new book, never finish it". A shame, I know. So to get myself back in the habit of starting and actually finishing books, I'm dedicating this series to short books with great takeaways. Every title in the series will be less than 300 pages and easily readable within a week. I'll provide a synopsis or my favorite points. If you have any suggestions, please email them to me!!

Up first - The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom, a Toltec Wisdom Book. This book is the size of a postcard but packs a pretty powerful punch. 

Author: Don Miguel Ruiz

Read time: a couple of days

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Say what you mean and mean what you say. Don't give anyone a chance to ever question your moral compass. Even when we think we're being crystal clear, things can be misinterpreted. Don't let a miscommunication ruin opportunities or relationships. 

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Personally, this is a tough one. It's hard not to take some things as a personal attack. I'm learning that people really do project their own shitty opinions of themselves onto other people. It sucks but it's life. Especially at works. Sometimes, we have to realize that it's not about us. The next time something happens to you, ask yourself, "did this happen because it's me, or am I just the body in this position?"  More times than not, nothing is a direct shot at you, and if it is, adjust your understanding of it. If you've ever heard the phrase "I know you aren't talking to me" then you already know how it's done. 

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Communication makes the world go 'round. If you don't understand, ask questions. If you've misspoken, take responsibility. Don't ever assume anything- even if you think you already know. Assumptions lead to chaos... and I know that we could all use a little less chaos in our lives!

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Sounds easy but sometimes, the temptation of half-assing something is too great. Don't do it. Even if opportunities don't yield an extrinsic reward, put your best foot forward. I imagine everything as a part of the "Sydnei Jarman" brand. I'm learning to give everythng my all- especially when I don't necessarily have too. Be proud of everything you do!

If you've read The Four Agreements, feel free to share your thoughts with me!